Most acceptance speeches gush with accolades to those who encouraged, inspired and supported the recipient of the award. And well they should because those people “behind the scenes” deserve recognition. But, as my sixtieth birthday approaches and I prepare for my golden years, I cannot help but reflect back on what, and who, made me the person I am today.

Unlike an annual review one does in December in order to make flimsy resolutions all in the name of the new year, this self-examination includes the result of the changes that I actually made. I am by no means perfect–very, very far from it, actually–but I do try to remember to view current circumstances as fluid, learning opportunities. I am a terrific student!

To all the people in my life,

For whatever reason you treated me poorly, Thank You.
I learned what it means to be kind to others.

If I wasn’t accepted into your clique–or worse, banished from it, Thank You.
You inspired me to make other friends. Lots of them.

If you gossiped about me behind my back, Thank You.
I learned that once released, hateful words are impossible to take back.

If you purposely ignored me, Thank You.
I discovered the importance of listening to others.

If your love or acceptance had certain conditions. Thank You.
You taught me the importance of accepting people the way they were.

If you discouraged me and told me I would never be able to achieve a goal, Thank You.
You encouraged me to work that much harder. And I learned to appreciate and treasure those who believed in me all the more.

Thank you for making me, Me!

Life is not easy, and it certainly isn’t fair. Have gratitude for everyone and everything that made you,You. No matter how old you are, or where you may be in Life, a brand new, extra-ordinary adventure is about to unfold. I hope you’re ready for it.

“How wonderful! How wonderful! All things are perfect, exactly as they are.”
― Gautama Buddha