Some birthdays, like 16, 21, and the decade birthdays mark significant events in one’s life. Being able to drive, drink alcohol and vote legally are usually anticipated eagerly, while 30, 40, 50 and beyond are seen by most as benchmarks. For some reason, these birthdays signal the time for a critical self-appraisal to be done because decade birthdays are typically dreaded. This is the year I turn 60, and with the help of guided questions in a Hallmark gift book entitled “A Grandparent’s Legacy,” I am writing my story for my grandchildren.

Currently I am on page 76, and most of the questions have been easy to answer like, “Where did your family live at the time of your birth and during your early years?” and “What are your early memories of your grandparents?” Some questions have been a bit more challenging; I had to search the Internet for the answer to “Who were the celebrities that teens admired then?” Some I just flat out couldn’t remember, like what my first kiss was like. (I quickly jotted “it was probably very tentative and clumsy at best.”)

“Who was your first love?” really took me back. I thought this question rather needless, but reluctantly and truthfully answered it nonetheless. It was the follow-up question that prompted an effortless stream of consciousness, the likes of which I haven’t had in quite some time: “What did you learn from that or other early romantic relationships?” Plenty!

1. Confusing lust for love can be a disaster.
2. Hormones suck.
3. Respect yourself.
4. Just be yourself. And always be true to yourself.
5. Listen to what your family and friends say about those you date; lust/love really is blind.
6. When you are doing more to maintain the relationship than the other person is, Wake Up!
7. Beware of drugs and alcohol.
8. Parents can be a pain sometimes, but believe that they only want the best for you.
9. Just be yourself. I know I’ve already mentioned this, but it’s important.
10. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.

It’s taking quite a bit of time, but I’m really glad that I am writing my story and sharing these memories with my grandkids. Although I am not thrilled with some of the questions that are asked, I have to keep in mind that there is a chance that my answers might spare them from being hurt or going through the angst that teenagers so often endure. Ultimately, all of us have the exact, same destination….it’s our individual journeys and the lessons we learn that matter and help us become the people we are. Because of this, I’m more than happy to pass my legacy on.