Here We Go Again

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My husband shocked me Sunday afternoon when, while eating Blizzards at a DQ near Lake Barkley, he suggested in all seriousness that we sell our house and go back to RVing full-time, something we did for a few years starting in 2005. I did not see that one coming.

I actually felt my stomach twinge a little when I first heard his suggestion, and in no time at all my mind was being bombarded with one crazy thought after another: What does he mean “sell the house?” I don’t know that I want to sell our house…I love it. How about my job? I love it. What if our son-in-law gets orders for Fort Campbell next year and our kids come back to Kentucky? Our grandkids would be just down the street. What are going to do with all of our stuff? Yard sale or tag sale? How are we going to get our mail? What about the El Camino we’re restoring? It was the last thing I thought about that night and it was the first thing I thought of when I awoke yesterday morning.

And here I thought our life was pretty good, all things considered. We are semi-retired, the kids have families of their own and it’s just the two of us and our pups, Victor and Biscuit, and we’re blessed beyond measure to be financially free. My garden is in bloom with tomatoes, peppers, strawberries, lettuce, herbs and flowers. We’ve renovated and updated the old house we call “home” to our liking. I’ve got a life here, damn it! To be perfectly honest, my first reaction was to dig in my heels and resist, but then my husband said something that totally brought the idea home. He said, “We can do it now; we might not be able to physically do it in five or ten years.”

How true! I vividly recalled an instance when we were cruising the ICW (the Intracoastal Waterway that hugs the eastern coast of the United States) in the spring of 1994. We had run all day and were approaching the marina where we would spend the night as the sun was beginning to set. A cruising sailboat with two older people aboard was also docking for the night–the wife was attempting to lasso the piling with the bow line as her husband, the helmsman, tried and tried again to get her and the boat as close to the piling without hitting it, a feat made even more challenging with the outgoing tide. They looked to be in their seventies, at the very least. My heart went out to the woman, because I was responsible for the lines, too, and I knew how tired, frustrated and angry she must have been, trying to secure the line around the piling. I remember my husband and I giving each other that knowing look that seemed to say what we were both thinking: Some people wait too long for “some day.” Sometimes it never comes. That memory alone caused me to at least consider the idea of ultimate downsizing and hitting the road.

Though all of the steps in a 12-step program are important, I am making a deliberate effort to actualize the Eleventh Step which states that we “sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for the knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.” And so, even though no one was around to hear, I said aloud, “OK, you take it from here. You know what’s best.”

Immediately, a weight seemed to be lifted, and I felt a noticeable sense of peace. The liberation was welcomed and it was almost as if my attitude instantly switched from thinking about all about the “what ifs” to “just put one foot in the front of the other and see what happens.” Certainly, we have a LOT that we still need to talk about, and nothing has been set in concrete. If absolutely nothing else comes of this conversation, it has inspired me to start on something I’ve been procrastinating (actually, a couple of things): sort through and organize all of our files and paperwork, and our closets, too, and get rid of stuff that no longer serves us. And, contrary to my usual modus operandi, I didn’t put off getting started; last night I cleaned out one of my dresser drawers, and that action in and of itself catapulted me into a process whose ultimate result is uncertain.

Only time will tell if whether or not we are headed once again to an alternative lifestyle. But one thing is for sure: this is going to be one interesting journey!


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Here We Go Again — 3 Comments

  1. I have a niece that just up and sold there house and just this past week decided to sell everything and do just what you wrote about and they are very excited for their adventure. They are in their late 40s.

  2. Woo hoo! I figured you all were just about there! Our house was just put on the market last week…our next step towards becoming FT RVers! I guess in a sense it’s the same for us…”here we go again”…over 20 years ago I was downsizing to live on a boat!

    We “tent” camped last weekend for 3 nights to be out of the house while it was being shown. LOVED it. Found a sweet little campground 30 minutes from home (North Creek) in the national forest, only $10 a night and all wooded sites on a beautiful creek…it was SO relaxing and lovely. I read all weekend, took long walks with the dogs, chased butterflies with my little Samantha, relaxed and enjoyed our camping neighbors. Hubby loves to cook over the fire!

    Oh and I MUST pass this along…discovered Starbucks “instant” coffee to take along on this little rustic camping adventure. I have never been able to drink instant in my entire life…this was SO good!

    The “camp hosts” at our campground were FT RVers and say Montana is where to register…so we need to check into this. It sounds like most FTers are becoming residents of South Dakota or Florida.

    We just purchased one of those “roof top” tents that goes on top of our truck. They are popular in S. Africa and Australia and just starting to catch on a bit in the USA. It’s like sleeping in a tree house! We had wondered for years how to stay for a night or two in national parks when we are RVing in the Montana 5th wheel and too big for those typically small sites in the nat’l parks. And hopefully the rooftop tent will keep us out of reach of grizzlies when we are in places like Yellowstone!

    Well…you are doing what we are…thinning out the house. Phase 1 is complete for us…de-cluttering to show the house. Phase 2 for me is going through everything behind the scenes in cabinets, drawers, storage closet, etc. We have years of office docs to shred. Slowly getting it done. We are going to RV or tent camp on most weekends until the house sells.

    It will be interesting comparing notes on this! We have already rearranged our living space on the RV and realized we could put my electric piano on board if we ditched the dining room table which we rarely use! I am more than excited about having my piano with me.

    I had a yard sale recently and made $452! If Mom, sister or niece did not want clothing items I was getting rid of, I put nicer items in consignment shops and have already made over $100. Next I am putting other household items on consignment…yeesh, I have THREE sets of crystal! Who needs that? I will keep my grandmothers lead crystal but consign the rest! More worn out items that consignment shops won’t want are going to Goodwill and the local rescue mission.

    SO EXCITED you all are going back on the road…we WILL meet up and PLAY!

    LOVE YOU! Here’s to next chapters Maria!

    Carol

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